Better than the tampon remark, but not much
Jun 25, 2009 Amy in the Morning
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Tags: Camilla Parker Bowles, Governor Sanford, King Edward VIII, love letters, Prince Charles, South Carolina, Wallis Simpson
couldn’t agree more. if your going to cheat just end your marriage first….never seems to happen that way though.
End you marriage first? Sure. Youve got 3 kids in HS and College and youre bored cause your hubby was the 2nd person you ever dated when you were 15 & u want to “experiment”. So, you agree between two consenting adults to experiment to see “what if…” And, youre suggesting that a divorce is in order PRIOR to the experimentation? Um, that aint happenin folks
PS – But, Keith Olbermann does rock!
@- E – Well sure, in the scenario you just came up with, that makes sense. But the two consenting adults that have to agree to the experiment are the husband and the wife, not the husband and the Argentinian chick!
call it “experimentation” if it makes you feel better but it’s cheating and it’s an awful thing to do to your husband/wife…there is no excuse
@E — I think what you’re describing is a very different scenario. In that, you have a point. If two consenting adults in a marriage agree about what the rules of that marriage are, I think it’s no one else’s business.
But by definition, “cheating” is when someone is breaking the rules of a marriage, and without consulting their spouse. I don’t know the governor or his wife personally, obviously, but my limited understanding of the situation is that he cheated on her, not that they sat down and decided sex and experimentation outside of their marriage was okay. He cheated, she found out, and they’re separated.
I make no judgments on how other people *agree* to shape their marriage. But with cheating, I’m 100% in agreement with Cara. If you can’t stay abide by what you promised the other person in that marriage, you should own up to that instead of betraying them.
I do not think that there are many that get married with the soul intention of cheating. Ignore your husband/wife, treat them with disrespect, make them feel unimportant, deny them sex and this is what may happen. We are all human and have blood running through our veins and we all have desires. I am not saying that it is right to cheat, because it is not right. And, you are right , in a perfect world everyone would get divorced before cheating, but human desires get in the way of that sometimes. You can imagine how it would feel being ignored for a very long time and then all of a sudden someone treats you way better than you have been treated for a long period of time. It’s still wrong, yes, but you have not walked in their shoes either. I am married, my husband does not cheat (to my knowledge) and neither do I. It would feel awful knowing that my husband cheated, so I know what you are saying. Treat your husband/wife how you did when you met them, and perhaps you secure your marriage, and then again maybe not!
People will do alot of things to either: A) alleviate boredom B) satisfy a desire from a previous period in their lives or C) for pure excite (including the possibility of getting caught)
I have known a few women who were married and cheated. One was young and did it because she felt she didnt date enough prior to her early marriage. The other married young and was much older and carried on a “fling” with another married man for over 30 years! (without either spouses knowing – yet – their friends all knew and were tight lipped about it)
Most Europeans doubt that human beings were meant to be monogamous at the current time. Back in the 60′s only 5% of married women admitted to cheating and today its up to 30% and climbing fast (cheating men in the US has held steady at around 50% (doing it 1 time during the marriage) for several decades – same as the divorce rate)
But still, men will do it for excitement and to feel young, while women do it mainly to alleviate boredom within a marriage.