Comments on: The Spelling Bee http://selfishmom.com/2009/11/24/the-spelling-bee/ Tue, 16 Mar 2010 19:58:54 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: Amy http://selfishmom.com/2009/11/24/the-spelling-bee/#comment-4770 Amy Wed, 25 Nov 2009 17:03:18 +0000 http://selfishmom.com/?p=4676#comment-4770 <a href='#comment-4764' rel="nofollow">@Toni</a> - No, I don't think we did. Makes perfect sense. I *think* I try to do that but who the hell knows? Jake used to get super frustrated if he couldn't do something well immediately. He's gotten better thank goodness.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('4770','Amy'); return false;">Reply</a> - <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('4770','Amy','<a href=\'#comment-4764\' rel=\"nofollow\">@Toni<\/a> - No, I don\'t think we did. Makes perfect sense. I *think* I try to do that but who the hell knows? Jake used to get super frustrated if he couldn\'t do something well immediately. He\'s gotten better thank goodness.'); return false;">Quote</a></div> @Toni – No, I don’t think we did. Makes perfect sense. I *think* I try to do that but who the hell knows? Jake used to get super frustrated if he couldn’t do something well immediately. He’s gotten better thank goodness.
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]]> By: Toni http://selfishmom.com/2009/11/24/the-spelling-bee/#comment-4764 Toni Wed, 25 Nov 2009 14:26:07 +0000 http://selfishmom.com/?p=4676#comment-4764 I completely agree with you. It's an important thing for them to learn, along with the "get back up on the horse" lesson. Did we talk about that book/study a month or two ago? They noted that kids who are praised just for their talent are running into problems in that, if they try something and fail, they just shut down & walk away, thinking, "I must not be good at that, so I won't do it." But if they're praised for their effort, and they try something & don't succeed, they more than likely will try again, because they've learned that doing well takes work. I don't know anything about parenting :) but I like the theory behind that.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('4764','Toni'); return false;">Reply</a> - <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('4764','Toni','I completely agree with you. It\'s an important thing for them to learn, along with the \"get back up on the horse\" lesson.\r\n\r\nDid we talk about that book\/study a month or two ago? They noted that kids who are praised just for their talent are running into problems in that, if they try something and fail, they just shut down & walk away, thinking, \"I must not be good at that, so I won\'t do it.\" But if they\'re praised for their effort, and they try something & don\'t succeed, they more than likely will try again, because they\'ve learned that doing well takes work. I don\'t know anything about parenting :) but I like the theory behind that.'); return false;">Quote</a></div> I completely agree with you. It’s an important thing for them to learn, along with the “get back up on the horse” lesson.

Did we talk about that book/study a month or two ago? They noted that kids who are praised just for their talent are running into problems in that, if they try something and fail, they just shut down & walk away, thinking, “I must not be good at that, so I won’t do it.” But if they’re praised for their effort, and they try something & don’t succeed, they more than likely will try again, because they’ve learned that doing well takes work. I don’t know anything about parenting :) but I like the theory behind that.

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