Some Girls Love Pink Princesses, And That’s OK Too

It’s that time again, when the internet is up in arms about dolls and princesses and other pink and girlie toys for girls. This time it’s because of this video:


And I get it, I really do. It is ridiculously obvious in any toy store which toys are being marketed to girls and which are meant for boys.

But as the mother of a girl who adores pink, and princesses, and Barbies, AND math and robotics, I have to give this hoopla a big SO WHAT?

Fiona came out practically wearing a pink tutu and a tiara. It’s just how she is. She asked for a doll house the last three Christmases. The first two we tried were just not what she had in mind, but we finally got it right last year with, you guessed it, a pink plastic Barbie Dream House (which was a bitch to put together, by the way).

She loves playing dress-up. She loves playing with my make-up. She also loves building things, no matter what color the blocks are – but if given the choice, she’d choose the girlie ones.

The “girl” aisles in the toy store are pink because pink shit sells. Would more girls want non-pink stuff if it were presented to them in a gender-free way? Probably. And I love that some people are trying to do just that – I have nothing bad to say about that movement. I also have nothing bad to say about companies like the one that made that video up there, which is clearly marketing just to girls, with toys centered on building and engineering (although my friends who review toys say they’re just not very good, oh well). The more choices the better.

But if you DO have a girl who loves pink and dolls, embrace it! Your daughter is not destined to a life of servitude to her male masters who played with blocks and cars as children! Her love of pink frilliness could happily coexist with her love of flashcards and Minecraft and her place on the robotics team at school and her many, many dance classes.

Kids are diverse. The world will try to pigeonhole them, so don’t do it at home. I would never ever make my daughter think that her love of pink is somehow wrong, or that it lessens her choices.

Just let kids be themselves and follow their passions, even if you think their passions go against everything you want them to be.


  1. says

    Amen to this Amy! My girls are little builders and while Sophia came out of the womb wanting to be a rock star Violet came out with princess in her blood and that is okay and awesome too. We have the goldie blox and they are really cool, but I don’t think there is anything wrong with the fact that they are kept right next to…the Barbie Dreamhouse! I have written about this before but perhaps I shall approach this topic again too!

    • says

      @Brittany: Thanks Brittany! I know so many girls who just came out loving pink, and also a lot of girls who think pink is stupid. But what gets on my nerves are the parents who actively try to discourage their girls from playing with pink or girlie stuff, when that’s what they gravitate towards naturally! Let them be themselves!

  2. Sonya says

    Amy, it’s not about girls not liking pink and purple or dolls. It’s about girls liking and even being exposed to other things or being made to feel abnormal because they don’t like dolls.
    Be careful jumping on the bandwagon of demonizing these folks who are trying their best to level the playing field. I have enormous respect for you and have for a few years now. I just hate to see women jump on the bandwagon of trying to keep girls down and in their popular gender conforming roles. We have Goldie Blox here and although it’s a bit simple and it’s no longer the only engineering toy out there, because of the controversy sparked by this one, other toy companies are starting to realize that there is a market for girls in engineering. As a mother of a gender non-conforming girl I can tell you that the pink and blue in those aisles are there for US, not the kids and it’s there to steer US in the directional path that has been approved by society for either gender to follow.
    I’m not saying that there is anything wrong with girls who want to play with dolls (although I have ALL KINDS of issues with Barbie) but the thing is, nobody is EVER going to say, “it’s not socially acceptable for girls to play with dolls” as that is what our society considers normal and acceptable behavior for girls.
    This is about opening up “normal” for girls who don’t fit the pink tutu roles. Girls like Ephiny, who only have time for dolls if they can sit properly on their Breyer horses (Barbie’s stiff legged self doesn’t, FYI) and who would rather build enclosures for their dinosaurs out of Legos than play with Barbies and for us moms who are tired of having to defend our choice to allow, or even god forbid encourage our daughters to do things that have traditionally been reserved for boys.
    You’re lucky to have a daughter who’s interested in pink and girly things. Mine’s favorite colors are orange and green and that’s awesome until I go to try and find things in those colors for her. I have no issues with girls who love pink and purple or even blue, my issue resides in the fact that I have to go on a scavenger hunt every time I want to find things for MY girl, who doesn’t.
    So if you have a girl who is gender conforming, congratulations. Not all of us do, and there’s nothing wrong with THAT.

    • says

      @Sonya: Sonya, I’m not sure you really got the point of my post, which was that girls who adore pink and girly things may also love minecraft and robotics and math, like my daughter does, so there’s no reason to discourage pink girlie stuff IF THAT’S WHAT YOUR CHILD IS IN TO. I’m sure someone else out there has written a post about how girls should conform to gender roles, but I sure didn’t. I wrote one about how IF girls like pink, so what?

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