I have a new hero, and her name is Gabourey Sidibe.
I made the mistake of watching the move Precious on an airplane, and spent a couple of hours sobbing all over my seatmates. Gabourey was phenomenal in a very ugly story about abuse, rape, and poverty.
And it was her first movie role.
And she got nominated for an Oscar.
So, she’s not new to the whole red carpet thing. I didn’t see the tweets about her during the Golden Globes. I don’t know if they were about her dress (which I consider fair game, unless we want to go this route), or her size, or her face, or what. But whatever people were saying, she’d clearly had enough:
To people making mean comments about my GG pics, I mos def cried about it on that private jet on my way to my dream job last night. #JK
— Gabourey Sidibe (@GabbySidibe) January 13, 2014
Since getting online I’ve had my share of hateful comments, but for some reason they don’t bother me. Thoughtful criticism is something I take in and consider. But mean, nasty comments and tweets from people who are just running by to throw an insult at me and move on to the next person? Pfft.
They barely register because I know what they’re worth. I know that while I’m having a ton of fun with what is a pretty cool and easy job, they’re trying desperately to make up for something that’s lacking in their own lives by hurling hate.
And I don’t let it in. And honestly, it’s pretty easy.
And yet, I know people who struggle with this every day. They let those comments in and give them power. They agonize over every one. And I have to wonder why they got into a business that’s so public and open to criticism, and if it’s just going to crush their souls.
They could all take a lesson from Gabourey. She’s a freaking Oscar-nominated actress. She’s living her dream. She knows what she’s worth, and she knows what those comments are worth.
And that is how the internet works. People who are sitting on the sidelines hating themselves try to bring other people down. And people with confidence and happiness don’t give them the power.